Paying For Affection (also known as Dating)

It pains me to see guys bending over backwards trying to please women that have no interest in them whatsoever.  I've witnessed it firsthand and have been guilty of it myself in the past.  I've seen guys spend hundreds, and even thousands of dollars over the course of a few months for women and still not get laid.   I've also seen women use a guy to get a Coach purse, a free trip somewhere, and even a down payment for a car.

What's even funnier is the guys who these women ARE having sex with aren't even putting forth much of an effort.  The guys they're sleeping with don't even have to buy a Happy Meal, much less take them to a nice restaurant.  Furthermore, most women who are worth a damn would never allow to a guy to buy her all those things in the first place, so that should be your first clue that you're being taken advantage of.

Guys, think about the last woman you had sex with.  I mean really think about it.  Did you have to take her on an endless amount of dates to get laid?  Did you have to spend months getting to know her?  Chances are you didn't have to do any of these things.  The woman liked you and wanted to have sex with you, and it didn't take a lot of effort on your part either.  The problem most guys have is they waste countless weeks and months pursuing women who have no interest in them whatsoever.
Think about it.  If a woman actually LIKES you, why would she not want to have sex with you?

There are those rare occurrences when you run across a woman who says she wants to be celibate.  The trick here is to figure out if she's really wanting to abstain from sex altogether, or if she just wants to abstain from having sex with YOU.  The key is to look at what she DOES, not what she says.

If you find that it's difficult to arrange dates with this woman or find that you're always calling her and she doesn't initiate many phone calls, then you're probably being played.  If you're having to beg, borrow, and steal for the tiniest bit of affection from her then you need to look elsewhere.  Even if a woman really is wanting to be celibate, she will still let you know that she really likes you in other ways.  She'll still want to spend time with you, hold your hand, will invite you over for dinner, etc.

Don't be a fool and waste your time and money on women who have no interest in you.  Like I always say if you really want to waste your money, go to the nearest strip club.  At least you'll get to see naked women in exchange for your hard-earned dollars.

Intima Resort Tulum Review (Clothing Optional)

The wife and I are always interested in checking out new clothing-optional/swinger resorts.  In my opinion, there's nothing like being able to walk around naked amongst other naked people.  It also means a lot less hassle when figuring out what to pack.  We hadn't had a vacation in quite a while, so we checked out Mak Nuk Village in Tulum, Mexico.   That was the name of the resort when we visited, but they have now changed it to Intima Resort.

It's a small but beautiful resort.  Being pretty new, all of the rooms are in excellent condition.  This isn't your typical hotel room, as the rooms are actually condos that have owners but are rented out.  We stayed in a 1 bedroom condo that had a full kitchen, living room, and a full sized refrigerator.  The condo seemed like it was about 900 sq ft in size.  The floors were nicely tiled and we stayed in a swim-up suite.  There were gigantic sliding glass doors leading out to the pool.  At the time we stayed, our condo was only $160 a night.

As nice as the rooms were, I really want to give this place 5 stars but I just can't.  You'll fly into Cancun, and it's about an hour and a half drive to the Tulum area of Mexico.  Pro Tip:  If you've never flown into Cancun before, pay no attention to the people inside the airport offering transportation.  They are ALL timeshare people.  Most of them will even lie and pretend to offer assistance.

When we arrived, there were only two other couples staying there, and one of the couples left the next morning.  So for three days there was only one other couple, and then for our last three days we literally were the only couple there.  It made for a relaxing time, but to be honest some days we got a little bored and wished there were people to talk to.  So if you're looking for a fun week, I'd suggest going on a week where there is a lifestyle takeover or special event.  You may also want to book a 1/2 day tour (we went snorkeling in a cenote, also visited the Mayan ruins)

One complaint is the beach owned by the resort is like 40 minutes away, and they said there is literally nothing there at that beach so we'd have to bring our own drinks and food.  Also since no one was hardly at the resort, there was no cook or anything so we had to buy our own meals.  You can buy a weeks worth of food at the supermarket for less than $100. 

Another knock on the resort is that it's on a dark. isolated street.  You'll have to walk a few blocks before you finally get on the main road where there are places to eat, and vendors.  Jut make sure you plan accordingly so you aren't walking back down that road in the pitch dark.  I'm a guy who can handle myself in a fight, but I was nervous walking back to the resort with my wife because it's so dark, and thick bushes and trees are on each side of the street.  I would honestly suggest renting a car because of this, and also the supermarket is about a 30 minute walk.   Otherwise you'll want to get the manager to call a taxi for you.

Another downside to the resort is they have no cable or satellite TV.  They do have free WiFi and they have Apple TV.  Apple TV doesn't do any good though unless you already have a subscription to Netflix, Hulu, etc.  Granted if there had been more people at the resort to interact with, we probably wouldn't have been in the room as much.  Also the tap water is not drinkable, so it can be a bit of a hassle to brush your teeth.  The water and ice from the fridge come from bottled water, so that's safe.

The resort also had a bit of an ant problem as well.  The other couple told us they were a lot of ants in their room when they checked in, and they made the maintenance staff spray for ants.  We didn't see any when we checked in so we didn't really think about it.  Then one evening we left a plate of cookies on the kitchen counter and left for a few hours.  When we came back, there were tons of ants everywhere, and there was a long line of ants coming in from the next room.  Took us a while to clear out all of the ants and we had to leave our garbage can outside that night.

Overall, I'm going to give this place 3.5 stars out of five.  We're willing to give this resort another try since new resorts often have little problems to work out that will be gone by the next time you visit.  I would suggest giving the resort a try because we've heard through the grapevine that they will be increasing their prices soon.  I would also be willing to bet in a few years they won't be so isolated anymore as other companies will start building there as well.  Tulum is a great place to visit because most of the tourists are in Cancun and Playa Del Carmen so it's less busy and more laid back.

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My Book is Officially Available

My book is officially available.   I could hardly contain my excitement as I tried to sleep last night.   From now until May 21st, you can download the book for free.   I would really appreciate any positive and/or constructive reviews from people.   It can be downloaded for free by clicking on the link.

Less Than 10 Hours Away

In less than 10 hours, my little guide on swinging will be released as an Amazon Kindle download.   It's weird being a brand new author because you don't know what to really expect.

No matter what though, I took a chance and did something that most people are afraid of doing, so even if only one person downloads the book, I'll consider it a success.

Right now I'm #171, 523 in the Paid Kindle store.   Maybe by end of tomorrow I can be up to #171,520 LOL.



Update:

As of 9:20 am 5/17/15 , my book is #13902 in Free Kindle Books, and #23 for the category of Sex.   Not too shabby.

Quote of the Day

"There are no atheists in foxholes"   - William Cummings

The Power of Negativity

I recently started reading a book called "A Bug Free Mind" (no I don't get paid to advertise another author's book).  In the book, the author states that each hour of the day, you should take at least 15 continuous seconds and focus on a happy or positive thought.  The key behind this thinking is that at some age when we are kids, we start to have more and more negative thoughts.  More and more self-doubt starts to creep in until we really are no longer in control of our minds anymore.

Think back if you can when you were a really young kid.  When you told people you wanted to be an astronaut, a policeman, an actress, or a fireman...was there any doubt in your mind at all?   You honestly believed at that age you could be whatever you wanted.  It isn't until we get older and people (parents, teachers, older siblings) start putting doubts in our head that we start to become negative thinkers.  Taking those 15 second breaks is the first step to regaining control over your thought process.

The author of that book also talks about the only way we can really have the life we want is to start getting rid of those negative thoughts.  It's quite the coincidence that today during lunch, this guy who normally is pretty shy sat down at our table.  Now this guy used to be pretty anti-social and would keep to himself, but he was a regular Chatty Kathy today.  See about a year ago when he was at our company, he developed a brain tumor which required surgery and rehab, and he was away from work for about 8 months.

In talking with him, he said that after his surgery he literally lost about 4 years of his memory.  He's currently only 26 years old, and he remembers when he was 25 but there is a gap and he doesn't remember much of anything from ages 21-25.  He said what's really strange is his fiance said that he's way more outgoing now than he used to be.  He said that just sounds crazy because he loves hosting parties, and loves being around people.  Myself and a few other co-workers all confirmed that he used to be very anti-social.

So at some point, this person who was very social allowed certain events that happened in his life to turn him into your average, self-doubting, anti-social Nice Guy.  It got me thinking, because in high school I was voted Best Personality and I was nowhere near as afraid of failure as I am now.  What events happened in my life to turn me into the person I am today?

If someone told you back when you were in high school that your life would be like it is today, would you have believed them?  I sure as hell wouldn't have.  Some of you may have been voted "Smartest" or "Most Likely to Succeed" back in high school.  So what happened in your life to steer you off track?  What has happened to make you doubt yourself?

No matter how old you may be, it's never too late to get back on track and live the life you were meant to live.

17 Beliefs of the Super Rich

I received this in an email I received a long time ago, so I don't take credit for its content.  


17 Beliefs of the Super Rich

1.    Rich people believe "I create my life."  Poor people believe "Life happens to me"

2.    Rich people play the money game to win.  Poor people play the money game not to lose.

3.    Rich people are committed to being rich.  Poor people WANT to be rich.

4.    Rich people think big.  Poor people think small.

5.    Rich people focus on opportunities.  Poor people focus on obstacles.

6.    Rich people admire other rich and successful people.  Poor people resent rich and successful people.

7.    Rich people associate with positive, successful people.  Poor people associate with negative or unsuccessful people.

8.    Rich people are willing to promote themselves and their value.  Poor people think negatively about selling and promotion.

9.    Rich people are bigger than their problems.  Poor people are smaller than their problems.

10.  Rich people are excellent receivers.  Poor people are poor receivers.

11.  Rich people choose to get paid based on results.  Poor people choose to get paid based on time.

12.  Rich people think "both".  Poor people think "either/or".

13.  Rich people focus on their net worth.  Poor people focus on their working income.

14.  Rich people manage their money well.  Poor people mismanage their money well.

15.  Rich people have their money work hard for them.  Poor people work hard for their money.

16.  Rich people act in spite of fear.  Poor people let fear stop them.

17.  Rich people constantly grow and learn.  Poor people think they already know.

The People Have Spoken

Well, the people have spoken.   Looks I have my new book cover.   Thank you to everyone who helped me pick it out.    Even if only one person downloads this book I'll consider it a great success.    Good luck to all the other aspiring authors!

Which Book Cover Should I Use?

So the final editing for my book is almost complete, and I'd love to get your opinion on which book cover looks the best.

Never Buy a Woman Drinks

Never buy a woman a drink in a club, unless you're out on a date with her.  I'm sure the few women reading this will discard what I'm saying and call me a cheapskate, but hear me out.

When I was single, I took great pride in never buying drinks for women, because I ultimately knew it was just a waste of money.  Why waste money on watered down, overpriced drinks just to get a woman's attention?  You buy a drink has nothing to do with that woman like you or possibly going home with you.  As a matter of fact, there are plenty of women who specifically go to the club looking for guys to buy them drinks and they never have any intention of giving out their phone number, let alone going home with someone.

They will only take enough money with them for the entrance fee and to buy one drink, because they know they can get some poor sucker to buy them drinks for the rest of the night if they bat their eyelashes in the right way or shake their ass.  

The worst offenders are the females who actually have the balls to ask you to buy them a drink.  A female who does this is NOT interested in you, it's because she thinks you're a simpleton who's dumb enough to do it.   If she was really feeling you, she would be too afraid of asking you something like that because she'd be too worried about offending you.  If a woman ever asks you to buy her a drink, there are two correct responses.  The first response is "No".  The second correct response is "I'll buy you a drink on our first date".

I broke my rule about buying drinks ONE time.   I was at the club with a friend and he had these two women sit down at our table.  He proceeded to buy the one he was interested in a drink, and I just rolled my eyes at the thought.  Well, I didn't want to be a complete jackass so I bought her friend a drink too.  We were all talking for about 10 minutes and the two women said they'd be right back as they had to go to the bathroom.  

Well, I pretty much knew what was happening, so I decided to let it play out.  Sure enough 5 minutes later I looked and those two women were out on the dance floor dancing with two other guys, drinks in hand.   I pointed this out to my friend and I stated "THAT is why you don't buy females drinks!".  I almost considered walking over and taking the drink I bought out of her hand and gulping it down in her face.   So what if she would've called me an asshole, she wasn't interested in me anyway.

If you're in such a hurry to waste your money, just go to your local strip club.  At least you'll get to see some tits and ass for your money.

Becoming a Sex Author

So I've pretty much finished writing my first short e-book for Kindle, now comes the fun part.   I'm shopping around for a great artist who will provide the graphic design for my book.

I've also seriously started thinking about trademarking a brand name I have in mind, and then I'll start selling my own products as well.  I've given a few people my e-book to read, which will be based on the swinging lifestyle so of course only my closest friends will be getting a copy to proofread. 

If you're an aspiring business owner, always remember that even if you fail you've still won.  You were willing to do what most people are too lazy and afraid to do, and that in itself is a victory.

It feels like a million things are running around in my head right now, and I can't believe that it's taken me all these years to get on the path of entrepreneurship.    I've so excited about the possibilities I can hardly focus on anything at work.   I spend half of my time brainstorming new product ideas and marketing strategies.

Like I've said before, the only difference between you and people like Bill Gates is they made their choices in life, and you made yours.   Let 2015 be the year of no more excuses.

Starting Your Own Business

Most people dream of owning their own business.   No little kid ever says "When I grow up, I want to work for a crappy boss and deal with an hour long commute everyday."   As much as most people fantasize about working for themselves, the majority of people never take action.  

Lack of action is the only thing that separates you and millions of other successful business owners in the world.   You can become a business owner in less than a day.   Here's how simple it is.

1.  Decide on a name for a business.

2.  Check your state's registry to see if the business name is already taken.  Most states have a website where you can search for a business name to see if it already exists.  Most business owners choose to form an LLC, but pick what is best for you.  

3.  After you find a business name that isn't taken, file the correct paperwork.   You can do this yourself as most states have these forms online, or you can print them out and mail them in with your appropriate filing fee.   For our business, we chose to use Legalzoom to file the paperwork which makes it even easier.  Sure it's a little more expensive than filing the paperwork for yourself, but we wanted to make sure it was done right.

4.  Your paperwork from your state should come back in less than a month, officially recognizing the name of your business as a legal entity

Just like that, you're a business owner.   See how simple that was?   What other excuses are you going to use put off a chance at financial freedom?

A New Beginning

Well, Google suspended my first blog  because of inappropriate pictures, but I'm back!

A lot has happened since I last posted.   I've graduated and got my Bachelors degree, I'm now working in a new job, and I've started my MBA studies.

This blog will still talk about swinging, sexuality, religion, business ownership, and all of the other things I love talking about.  I'm also going to be talking about dream building and achieving your goals.   I've always wanted to make money on my own terms, and I've decided that this is the year I'm finally going to make that happen.

Hopefully you'll join me on my journey as I discuss my triumphs as well as my failures.