Beliefs of Millionaires

There are millionaires in every industry, from computer software to even shoe shiners. Millionaires come from all walks of life. Some were immigrants like Andrew Carnegie and some have even been bankrupt several times such as Mark Victor Hansen. Then what made them eventually come out on top? All have earned their wealth in different ways, but all of these millionaires that I've described to you share at least 7 essential core beliefs, and I've outlined them for you right here.

1. Millionaires Believe in Having Balance in their Lives

Most millionaires work only a few hours a week every few weeks at a time, how? Millionaires do first things first. They ask themselves, "What is the most important thing that I can be doing right now?" or what Brian Tracy asks, "If I were to leave tomorrow for a month with nobody having a possible way of getting a hold of me, what would I be doing right now?"

Example: Tim Ferris, author of the New York Times Bestseller The 4-Hour Work Week goes on vacation for two months at a time travelling the world. After his 2-month vacation, Ferris comes home, works a little for about a month before leaving on yet another two-month vacation.

2. Millionaires Know They Can't Make it on Their Own

Millionaires leverage the power of the mastermind group. Millionaires surround themselves with other like-minded people to help them achieve far more than they could have done on their own or thought possible. Mastermind groups help brainstorm new ideas to generate wealth and also help with networking through potentially thousands of influential people and companies.

Example: Andrew Carnegie studied the life of Jesus in the New Testament and the impact Jesus had on the world and what He was able to accomplish in only 3 years of His ministry. Carnegie saw that Jesus had surrounded Himself with 12 men and called them "Apostles", so Carnegie gathered around him a group of men and called them "executives". Carnegie knew nothing of the steel industry initially, but through the help of his executives became one of the wealthiest men of all time through that same industry.

3. Millionaires Believe They Have No limitations

Millionaires don't believe that the sky is the limit; that would be silly to believe such a thing. Millionaires believe there are no limits. The only limitations we have are the ones we put on ourselves. Millionaires also understand that all roadblocks to success are mental roadblocks. All problems and solutions rest within our own minds.

Example: Robert G Allen and Mark Victor Hansen wanted to do what nobody has ever done before and that is pre-sell one million copies of a single book. Everyone thought they were crazy, but they did it. By the way, that book is the One Minute Millionaire.

4. Millionaires Believe They are the Makers of Their Own Destiny

Millionaires choose to live and run their own lives. They do this by not letting setbacks and unwelcomed circumstances hold them back. Millionaires have a winner's way of thinking; they go forward with the attitude that "Failure is not an option". Robert G. Allen has referenced himself many times asking, "Could I do it if a loved one depended on me accomplishing this task or goal?" and you'll find that the answer is always a resounding YES.

Example: The number of millionaires have nearly doubled in the past decade and nearly 80% are self-made millionaires. Do I really need to give a specific example?

5. Millionaires Believe in Giving

Millionaires believe in the law of abundance. Millionaires know that there will always be plenty to go around. They also know that as they give, the universe will give back to them in greater abundance. Millionaires believe the more they give of their time, talents, knowledge, and wealth, the universe will give back exponentially to what is given.

Example: Mark Victor Hansen donates a minimum of 10% of his earning each year to various churches and non-profit organizations; on top of that each of his Chicken Soup for the Soul books has a charity attached to it. Hansen and his business partner Jack Canfield currently hold the world record for selling more books than any other author in the history of the world.

6. Millionaires Believe That at the Root of Every Problem is a Seed of Opportunity

Millionaires believe they can turn any negative situation to a positive situation. Whether it's personal, family, or financial; they see problems as an opportunity of improvement.

Example: When computers were first created they filled an entire room and required a group of trained individuals to run them. Steve Wozniak and Steve Jobs saw this and sought to fill the void by creating the first personal computer and as a result the Apple I was invented.

7. Millionaires Believe in Education

Millionaires don't believe in having solely college education, they believe also in self-education. The average person reads less than one book per year; the average millionaire reads two books per week. I'm not talking about books such as Harry Potter either, rather, books such as Think and Grow Rich and 7 Habits of Highly Successful People. Millionaires become successful through their reading habits.

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Pavlov's Dog (Rewarding Bad Behavior From Women)

Women have had this figured out for ages.  If a guy isn't acting right, they act accordingly.  They may give you the silent treatment.  Even worse, they withhold sex.

Nice Guys on the other hand do things backwards.  If their woman seems to be in a sour mood or just doesn't seem to be acting right, they buy her gifts.  We take her out on a date, or buy flowers.  When a woman isn't having sex often enough for our liking, we try to do something romantic thinking this will get her to give us more sex.  Isn't that what all those articles (written by women of course) tell us we should do?

The problem here is that you are actually rewarding her bad behavior.

What you're doing is actually teaching her that it's okay for her to treat you the way she does.  Every time she withholds sex, she gets a nice dinner.  Every time she is acting like a brat, you show her more affection.  If you have a kid that's pouting or isn't acting right, would you go and buy them some ice cream to reward the way they're acting?  If your best buddy was acting rude, would you treat him to a sporting event to get him to be nice?  Of course not, so why do it with your woman?

This is how a lot of REALLY attractive women behave.  Because she's pretty, people have been kissing her ass her whole life.  Why should she change the way she behaves if you're still catering to her every whim?

I shake my head at men who only get sex a few times a month buying their women jewelry or gifts.  A woman isn't paying you a lot of attention, and you go buy her some flowers.  Why in God's name would you do that?  If anything you should STOP doing those things until her behavior changes.  (By the way guys, a woman who tries to use sex as a weapon or a bargaining chip isn't somebody you want to be with in the first place.)  I'm not just preaching this from the mountain top either, I've made this mistake a few times myself.  I know what these men are going through because I've been there.

When my wife was thinking of leaving me (for another guy of course), I was at my worst.  Even one of my guy friends was telling me I need to buy flowers, perfume, candy, etc.  I was giving her massages, buying flowers, preparing romantic candlelit dinners, etc....almost for a month straight.   Even took her on a surprise getaway.  All because that's what society conditions us guys to do if something is wrong in our relationship.  Once I actually found out what was REALLY going on in my relationship, all that nice treatment came to a SCREECHING HALT.

Between you and me, all those massages and dinners did NOTHING to force her to make a decision.  Only when I got my balls back and basically told her to piss or get off the pot (make a decision) did things change.  Women don't like or respect wimps, aka Nice Guys.

What you need to do is flip the script here.  You have to reward GOOD behavior.  The same way women have us trained (wash her car, get a blowjob, etc) is what you need to do.  Your woman gives you a surprise blowjob downstairs in the living room....reward her with a massage or a movie night.  A woman gives you sex 3 or 4 times in a week, treat her to a romantic dinner.

You get the picture.  Women have been doing this to us for ages, it's time we learn the tricks of the trade.

Always remember, what gets rewarded gets repeated.

I Love You, But I'm Not In Love With You

"I Love You, But I'm Not In Love With You."

One of the most emotionally damaging sentences in the English language.  Women may not come right out and say it in those exact words though.  It may be disguised as "It's not you, it's me" or "I just need some space to figure things out".    Either way it has the same meaning.  Also by the time a woman actually says something like this to you, she's been feeling like this for a while and she has already told her friends and possibly family members.  Usually everyone will know what's going on EXCEPT you.

From time to time I like to share books that I've read that have helped me make the transformation from "Nice Guy" to "Not So Naive Guy".  One of the BEST books I can recommend is called the Married Man Sex Life Primer by Athol Kay.  ALL men should read this book, but in particular married men, or men in long-term relationships.  Let's see what Mr Kay has to say about this subject:

Having your wife tell you "ILYBINILWY" (I love you but I'm not in love with you) is about the largest red flag that your relationship is in trouble.  A woman can have minimal "in love" feelings for the husband and just coast along for years with no apparent cause for concern.  But once a new man enters the picture who flips her dopamine switch on, things can unravel between a wife and her husband very quickly.

So when a wife tells a husband ILYBINILWY that usually means there is another guy she has feelings for.  Not only that, she usually is trying to actively find a way to exit the main relationship and enter a new relationship with her love interest.  To put it bluntly, what she means by saying ILYBINILWY is some combination of "I'm leaving you for him", "I'm thinking about having sex with him", or I'm having sex with him but I still want to live with you, is that okay?"

The other reason a wayward wife may say this is because it is a delaying tactic to avoid the husband acting pre-emptively to end the marriage, kick her out, or take other action against her.

Take note guys, when a woman says any of these phrases to you she already knows she doesn't want to be with you anymore, she's just stalling for time so she can figure out how to exit with the least amount of resistance.   

Dating Women With Kids

I'm going to get slammed for writing this, but I don't care....

If you're in your 30's and 40's, most of the women you are trying to date will have kids.  Now understand that there is nothing inherently wrong with dating a woman who has kids.  Do understand however, that the life of a step parent isn't going to be like an episode of the Brady Bunch.  Marriages where step kids are involved are almost twice as likely to fail than most "normal" marriages.  I'm not here to preach about whether you should or should not date someone with kids, because there are plenty of other resources out there for that.  I'm going to approach this from an entirely different angle.

Now most women who have kids aren't going to have a tremendous amount of free time.  There's soccer practice, dance lessons, band practice, and hundreds of other activities which will eat up your prospective date's time.  So lets say you start dating a woman with kids.  Things are going great, as she has plenty of time to go on dates with you, watch TV, and all the other things two people who are dating should be doing.  You start thinking to yourself that this is awesome, because of course she's giving you all the sex you can handle.  One question you should be asking yourself:

Where the hell is her kid????

See most guys are just happy they're finally getting a steady supply of sex, and this question never crosses their mind.  If you've been dating a woman with a kid for a few months and it seems like she always has time to meet up with you, or is always at your house riding you like a rodeo cowboy, there's something wrong with this picture.   Seriously wrong.   As a matter of fact this should be a huge red flag.  How is it that she has all this free time to spend with you when she has a kid to raise?  Once again, I know what you're thinking.  You're thinking you've got this sex goddess giving you more pink taco than you've had in a long while, why should you care where her kid is?  I'll tell you why.

First off, if she's spending all of that time with you, that means someone else is having to raise her kid.  It could be her parents, grandparents, another relative or friend...but the bottom line is that somebody else is stuck taking care of HER child while she's rolling around the sheets with you.  This shows a tremendous lack of responsibility on her part.  This lack of responsibility usually manifests itself in other ways too.  The women who are too irresponsible to take care of their child are the same ones who are too irresponsible to keep a job for any longer than a few months, are always behind on their rent, (if they're not sponging off of mom and dad) and they're always broke.

I know.  I know.  You love getting a constant supply of booty, so here's the part where you'll make excuses for her.  "The father has custody of the kids, that's why she doesn't have them often."  I'm about to burst that bubble as well.   We all know the court system in most countries will side with the female parent when it comes to custody of the kids.  Unless a mom walks into court with a needle dangling from her arm while she smokes a joint, it's pretty much a forgone conclusion on who is going to win a custody battle.

So in other words, you pretty much have to be an absolute asshole of a mom in order for a judge to award custody to a father.  Even then the dad's chances of winning are slim.  So if you're dating a woman and her ex has custody of her child, she's probably a piece of crap lowlife, or she wanted nothing to do with her kid in the first place.

You say you still don't care?  Let me throw this at you.  What if you get her pregnant?  Who do you think will be taking care of that kid once it's born?  If you don't know the answer to this, hold up a mirror and take a long stare.

That's right, you will be raising that kid by yourself.  She will have moved on to the next chump while you're stuck at home changing diapers.  She'll be out wasting her money on nightclubs and having fun while you're trying to figure out how you're going to afford daycare.  Now do you get the picture?

If a woman has a kid and she doesn't have custody or is always able to meet you at a moments notice....

Run.

Just run.

Run as fast as you can away from that loser because don't want anything to do with a mom who doesn't care about providing for her kids.

Paying For Affection (also known as Dating)

It pains me to see guys bending over backwards trying to please women that have no interest in them whatsoever.  I've witnessed it firsthand and have been guilty of it myself in the past.  I've seen guys spend hundreds, and even thousands of dollars over the course of a few months for women and still not get laid.   I've also seen women use a guy to get a Coach purse, a free trip somewhere, and even a down payment for a car.

What's even funnier is the guys who these women ARE having sex with aren't even putting forth much of an effort.  The guys they're sleeping with don't even have to buy a Happy Meal, much less take them to a nice restaurant.  Furthermore, most women who are worth a damn would never allow to a guy to buy her all those things in the first place, so that should be your first clue that you're being taken advantage of.

Guys, think about the last woman you had sex with.  I mean really think about it.  Did you have to take her on an endless amount of dates to get laid?  Did you have to spend months getting to know her?  Chances are you didn't have to do any of these things.  The woman liked you and wanted to have sex with you, and it didn't take a lot of effort on your part either.  The problem most guys have is they waste countless weeks and months pursuing women who have no interest in them whatsoever.
Think about it.  If a woman actually LIKES you, why would she not want to have sex with you?

There are those rare occurrences when you run across a woman who says she wants to be celibate.  The trick here is to figure out if she's really wanting to abstain from sex altogether, or if she just wants to abstain from having sex with YOU.  The key is to look at what she DOES, not what she says.

If you find that it's difficult to arrange dates with this woman or find that you're always calling her and she doesn't initiate many phone calls, then you're probably being played.  If you're having to beg, borrow, and steal for the tiniest bit of affection from her then you need to look elsewhere.  Even if a woman really is wanting to be celibate, she will still let you know that she really likes you in other ways.  She'll still want to spend time with you, hold your hand, will invite you over for dinner, etc.

Don't be a fool and waste your time and money on women who have no interest in you.  Like I always say if you really want to waste your money, go to the nearest strip club.  At least you'll get to see naked women in exchange for your hard-earned dollars.

Quote of the Day

"There are no atheists in foxholes"   - William Cummings

The Power of Negativity

I recently started reading a book called "A Bug Free Mind" (no I don't get paid to advertise another author's book).  In the book, the author states that each hour of the day, you should take at least 15 continuous seconds and focus on a happy or positive thought.  The key behind this thinking is that at some age when we are kids, we start to have more and more negative thoughts.  More and more self-doubt starts to creep in until we really are no longer in control of our minds anymore.

Think back if you can when you were a really young kid.  When you told people you wanted to be an astronaut, a policeman, an actress, or a fireman...was there any doubt in your mind at all?   You honestly believed at that age you could be whatever you wanted.  It isn't until we get older and people (parents, teachers, older siblings) start putting doubts in our head that we start to become negative thinkers.  Taking those 15 second breaks is the first step to regaining control over your thought process.

The author of that book also talks about the only way we can really have the life we want is to start getting rid of those negative thoughts.  It's quite the coincidence that today during lunch, this guy who normally is pretty shy sat down at our table.  Now this guy used to be pretty anti-social and would keep to himself, but he was a regular Chatty Kathy today.  See about a year ago when he was at our company, he developed a brain tumor which required surgery and rehab, and he was away from work for about 8 months.

In talking with him, he said that after his surgery he literally lost about 4 years of his memory.  He's currently only 26 years old, and he remembers when he was 25 but there is a gap and he doesn't remember much of anything from ages 21-25.  He said what's really strange is his fiance said that he's way more outgoing now than he used to be.  He said that just sounds crazy because he loves hosting parties, and loves being around people.  Myself and a few other co-workers all confirmed that he used to be very anti-social.

So at some point, this person who was very social allowed certain events that happened in his life to turn him into your average, self-doubting, anti-social Nice Guy.  It got me thinking, because in high school I was voted Best Personality and I was nowhere near as afraid of failure as I am now.  What events happened in my life to turn me into the person I am today?

If someone told you back when you were in high school that your life would be like it is today, would you have believed them?  I sure as hell wouldn't have.  Some of you may have been voted "Smartest" or "Most Likely to Succeed" back in high school.  So what happened in your life to steer you off track?  What has happened to make you doubt yourself?

No matter how old you may be, it's never too late to get back on track and live the life you were meant to live.

Never Buy a Woman Drinks

Never buy a woman a drink in a club, unless you're out on a date with her.  I'm sure the few women reading this will discard what I'm saying and call me a cheapskate, but hear me out.

When I was single, I took great pride in never buying drinks for women, because I ultimately knew it was just a waste of money.  Why waste money on watered down, overpriced drinks just to get a woman's attention?  You buy a drink has nothing to do with that woman like you or possibly going home with you.  As a matter of fact, there are plenty of women who specifically go to the club looking for guys to buy them drinks and they never have any intention of giving out their phone number, let alone going home with someone.

They will only take enough money with them for the entrance fee and to buy one drink, because they know they can get some poor sucker to buy them drinks for the rest of the night if they bat their eyelashes in the right way or shake their ass.  

The worst offenders are the females who actually have the balls to ask you to buy them a drink.  A female who does this is NOT interested in you, it's because she thinks you're a simpleton who's dumb enough to do it.   If she was really feeling you, she would be too afraid of asking you something like that because she'd be too worried about offending you.  If a woman ever asks you to buy her a drink, there are two correct responses.  The first response is "No".  The second correct response is "I'll buy you a drink on our first date".

I broke my rule about buying drinks ONE time.   I was at the club with a friend and he had these two women sit down at our table.  He proceeded to buy the one he was interested in a drink, and I just rolled my eyes at the thought.  Well, I didn't want to be a complete jackass so I bought her friend a drink too.  We were all talking for about 10 minutes and the two women said they'd be right back as they had to go to the bathroom.  

Well, I pretty much knew what was happening, so I decided to let it play out.  Sure enough 5 minutes later I looked and those two women were out on the dance floor dancing with two other guys, drinks in hand.   I pointed this out to my friend and I stated "THAT is why you don't buy females drinks!".  I almost considered walking over and taking the drink I bought out of her hand and gulping it down in her face.   So what if she would've called me an asshole, she wasn't interested in me anyway.

If you're in such a hurry to waste your money, just go to your local strip club.  At least you'll get to see some tits and ass for your money.